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Home Article Library October 2009 Joy and Ascension

Inelia Benz

Joy is a conscious choice.

No matter how you put it, the way we feel is how WE CHOOSE TO FEEL.  The concept that we are victim to our feelings, our surroundings and our reactions is erroneous.


When we are in the depth of suffering or depression, or even anger or discontentment or frustration, it is very difficult to feel joy. However, dwelling in the negative emotion, no matter how much we deserve to be in that emotion, is not going to help us.


Say we lost a loved one. We have to allow the sorrow and loss to express itself energetically, overcome all our being. But we don't stay there. At some point, sooner rather than later, we have to become the observer, acknowledge the feeling and move our attention to something joyful.  In this example, where we lose someone, instead of indulging in loss and pain, we move our attention to the moments of laughter and joy we shared with that person.  Or imagine them in funny situations.

If we are suffering from poverty, instead of indulging in fear and lack become the observer, acknowledge the feelings as being real and move your attention to gratitude and joy. Find things to enjoy around you.  Stop feeling fear and lack.

It is very strange, and fantastic, but sooner rather than later, your circumstances will change into the ones you are enjoying the most.

But this secondary effect is irrelevant. What is relevant is that we are much more aware, and able to ascend to greater awareness when we are in a place of joy rather than one of misery.

This method goes against modern counseling and psychological schools of thought which make you indulge and explore the things that made you miserable.  So, if these modern methods worked for you, then you might have to take a leap of faith to use Joy as your new medicine.


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0 #5 Helfrid Albrigtsen 2016-01-27 17:07
Thank Thank you for a much needed reminder Inelia :-) ;-)
+3 #4 Guest 2011-08-13 05:15
Dearest Inelia,

the way we feel is how WE CHOOSE TO FEEL - Yes! And yes, it does go against modern counselling and psycho-analysis . Thank you for mentioning this.

To me, meditation is even more about moment-to-momen t awareness of our FEELINGS than it is about our thoughts. Feelings are much more important! When we know what we are feeling, we can then take steps - as you suggest - to feel something different.... like JOY!!!!

With love and hugs,
Clemens X
+2 #3 Guest 2011-05-28 07:17
Again, something outside of my waking consciousness guides me to the one article adressing my current challenge. Have yet to visit this site without being overwhelmed by synchronisity! Getting kind of used to that, but nonetheless, I don't take such divine grace for granted. Stevie Wonder also helps in raising the joy levels. Highly recommended! Again, Thank You!
Love and Grace!
0 #2 Guest 2011-05-28 07:13
That goes for me too, Linda! I was feeling unnessecarily grumpy due tom some irrelevant issue. Went to this site, which is always helpful, and by the grace of synchronisity this page opened, not an act of my will -; ) At least not consciously. Can't find anything other that just what I need whenever I go here. Amazing. Thanx!
Love and Grace!
+2 #1 Linda Dennis 2011-05-02 15:08
Thank you for leading me to this article, I needed it so much right now.

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