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Christmas treeDecember often brings about a sense of loneliness, melancholy, loss and lack to adults, and some children too.

These feelings are perpetuated by the media and by society.

We also get feelings of wanting to share, to give, and we feel compassion for those who are not as "lucky" as we are throughout the "holiday season".

The winter/summer solstice (depending on where in the world you are located), is charged with Gaia’s dormant and potential energy in the North, and plentitude in the South.

How to respond?

Throughout my life I have had Decembers filled with joy and sharing, and others where our family did not have food to eat. I too have felt the loss of not being able to share this season with those who have left the body, or who have disappeared into the world, never to be heard of again.

If we were in touch with our local geographical energy, if the season had not been hijacked by the media, commercialism and religion, this would be simply a time to celebrate the season’s gifts. Or not.

Feeling lonely is an act of separation. The sadness we feel at not having someone by our side is something that is natural for the human species. Our bodies need human contact, and our being does too.

Our being. Our essence of singular expression of consciousness as a member of the human race, is cut off from other humans, as well as from Source. This is NOT a natural state for us. As we raise our vibrational level, we begin to feel less and less lonely, less cut off, less dependant on those tiny moments of human contact and more able to embrace the entire Human Collective.

One of the tools used to separate us is Language. Verbal and written language is not natural to the human species. These words that you are reading right now, are not our natural form of communication. They separate us, they separate energy and ideas. But, for now, it is the only way to communicate complex ideas through the mediums we have access to.

However, we can move past this form of separation. Twenty minutes a day, minimum, of silent meditation is a very, very powerful tool that moves us past “language” and into the form of communication which is natural to us. Direct connection with source and others of our, and related, species.

“But I can’t meditate!” some of us might shout. Not so. If this comes up, do the firewall exercise on the Tools section of the site. And the Fear Processing Exercise too. Most of the time, the inability to silence our minds comes from fear alone.
And, as Yoda from Star Wars said: "No! Try not. Do. Or do not. There is no try."

At the end of the day it is very simple. Do we want to move past this paradigm of separation, or don’t we? There is no right or wrong answer, they are both as valuable and honorable paths of evolution as each other. They are simply no longer compatible.
So, when we feel lonely, we look at it. We don’t judge. We don’t analyze it, we don’t try to suppress it or make it go away. We look, and we welcome the emotion, we let it grow, we feel gratitude, we send it love and light and embrace it back into Oneness ... we free it.

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+1 #14 Guest 2012-01-21 00:28
HI I just want to.say its past Christmas but ive been processing my fears including loneliness its been a problem my whole life. This REALLY does work. I can be alone now and you can't imagine the freedom. Thank you Inelia.
0 #13 Guest 2012-01-03 15:21
0 #12 Guest 2012-01-01 13:40
I was feeling bereft for about a week and Thurs. a.m. 29 Dec. during meditation said, I'll look behind this sadness and see what's there. Then let go. Don't know when but I found behind sad me, Source me. Source. And energy burst out, I saw the sadness was a habit, an old thing that comes back because I forget to connect with what is behind, under, beyond, above it. Neutral, calm, full of love. Happy 2012!
+1 #11 Guest 2011-12-29 07:09

I feel your pain. It sounds like we are dealing with the same thing. Although, I will say, I have realized I have got to let it go. I'm the only person I know (that I can see in the flesh) that is AWAKE. It saddens me deeply that my family thinks I've lost it. When I'm feeling low, I just tell the universe I'm so grateful I'm conscious and AWAKE. I tell myself at least ONE person in this family is!! I'm beginning to believe, soon, I will have some tough decisions to make. When you let go and move on, how in the world do you stop revisiting the saddness if you don't just DETACH and let go. I feel like detaching is exactly what my gut is telling me to do. =(

Good luck to you! Love, hugs and blessings!

PS. Thank you Inelia for just being on this planet right now!!
+1 #10 Guest 2011-12-28 12:11
Atencio, I know this to.

The only thing we can do is to accept that not everyone is interested. Maybe they don't have to! I know many very spiritual and loving persons who do NOT have "spirituality" as an interest, they just DO IT. It is impossible to talk about it with them, but they have their path and maybe to talk about it would disturb things at times.

If it is something that is false and full of lies though, then it is allways better to be very frank and straight with people about it.

But thats a different thing. We don't have to convince anyone about anything. Thats the old way! :)

+2 #9 Guest 2011-12-27 19:57
Thank you for this..I felt very lonely this X-mas and I helps to know i am not alone feeling this.
0 #8 Guest 2011-12-26 14:41
Thank you for your encouraging words on coping with loneliness. I am reminded of what Fritz Pearls (founder of Gestalt Psychology) once said: "Loneliness is being alone + the bullsh-t." Kind of blunt, but not unlike Fritz, and as I have thought about his statement, it makes more sense when seen through your explanation above. As we process our fears, the BS is acknowledged, welcomed and allowed to go where is is best suited! And then we realize we were never alone! I am grateful for our meeting and sharing.
0 #7 Guest 2011-12-25 14:33
Same thing here, Lopez... "I have a question for you that is my main concern, How can I make my family become interested in all these topics. Every time that I bring them on the table they just change the subject and I feel frustrated..."
I believe you can't push your ideas on others. You can only share if they ask you too. Respect their right to choose. And don't push them in any direction, because all you create is resistance.
Meditate, like Inelia says. Meditation is the best you can do for them. You can change things by meditating. If they see you are meditating regularly and it brings you joy, they may start asking you questions, and become interested... Or may be not. It's their choice.

Thank you, Inelia!

Thanks, everyone!
+3 #6 Guest 2011-12-23 12:35
Dear Inelia and The Team

Thank you so much for the hope and love that you bring. I wish you all a peaceful and blessed Christmas and New Year

+3 #5 Guest 2011-12-21 18:42
I lost a friend to suicide because they lost hope from living in bad situations, awful family, and not knowing what to do since they were from another "dimension."
What happened to her when she died? Is it possible that she deleted herself because she said she felt like she might since she felt like a failure? Is that possible?
I hear heaven is a beautiful place though.

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